“The children are the adventure now.” By Sasha at her desk

Thursday December 7, 2017
11:17pm
5 minutes
Mating in Captivity
Esther Perel

I want to take Shayla to the Swiss Alps. I want to hike in the mountains with her and take photographs. I want us to sleep in side-by-side twin beds and talk until one of us falls asleep. When she was little, three to six, I had to stay with her until she fell asleep and she’d want me to talk the whole time. I would start by telling her a story, and then I would tell her things about my day – cucumbers on sale for a dollar each, Charlie’s bad breath, the stress of trying to keep up when everyone seems to be getting younger while I’m just getting greyer. If I stopped, even for a moment to think of what to say next, her blue eyes would pop open and she’d cock her head a little, like, “What are you trying to pull here, Mom?” I’ve been saving. Tickets to Switzerland are expensive, and it’s not like I have a lot of extra cash just sitting around.

“The children are the adventure now.” By Julia on her couch

Thursday December 7, 2017
10:28pm
5 minutes
Mating in Captivity
Esther Perel

She was cute, wasn’t she?

Yeah I guess. I was kind of grossed out though.

By her tongue?

Yes by her tongue. I didn’t like how she was folding it all around and stuff like, all that drool all over her hands.

It’s true, that tongue thing was like, right, this is next level, kids will lick anything.

Yeah it made me wish I could just keep talking to you, you know keep the adult conversation going.

But you were so good with her.

I mean, I stuck my tongue out at a little pudding cup standing in line at the post office. I was barely good with her.

But she was all eyes on you.

Because I’m at her eye level.

No because you were real with her.